Get Back With Your Ex

What is the right method to get back with your ex ? Do you cajole him, beg him and plead him to love you again? Maybe you think you ought to change your very self to get him back with you. Have you gone and promised him that you will change your ways- promised him a million times? Maybe you have tried breaking up his new “love interest”, she might be the reason he is no longer interested in you.

Have you tried all this and more and have only succeeded in pushing him away? Are you wondering why?? Just think about it yourself. You have just not been behaving in a very mature manner. Your actions have been pressurizing him a bit too much. He either thinks you are too immature or that you are a real conniving character. He reckons that the lesser he has to do with you; the better it is for him!

If you have realized what you have been doing wrong- stop doing it! Stop behaving in that manner- now! Do not stalk him or follow him around anymore. In fact, just do the opposite- avoid him as much as you can. Your strategy after the breakup failed- accept it. Now is the time for a change. Understand this- the more you try to draw him to yourself, the more will he run away.

Stop overreacting every time you see him. If you happen to meet him in a public place, act casual. Say a polite hello and move on. You can even tell him that since he has come here, you are leaving, just to make him more comfortable. Don’t touch, don’t try to hug or kiss him. Maintain your distance and your dignity.

Cut off all unnecessary contact with him. You might have his number, that doesn’t mean you can obsess about him and call him several times a day and flood him with messages. Call him if and only if you need something and even then keep the conversation as brief as possible. Be polite but be reserved.

All this will make your ex wonder exactly what is going on. He will be mystified by your behavior. He might even like this pleasant change. He will start missing you. And seriously start pondering over your relationship.

After sufficient time has passed, just ring him up. Tell him you called in just to say a hi. He might get suspicious of your motives and wonder if you are starting your chase again. Explain to him sincerely that you missed him and you were just checking in to see that he is fine. If you are not feeling up to a telephonic conversation, just send him a card saying you are thinking about him.

He will wonder why you did not beg or plead this time around. By talking to him or sending him a card, you are showing your affection without suffocating him. Now, if he would like to get back to you, he can make the move. You gave him space but also expressed your feelings for him. Now the ball is in his court. You just wait and watch.